EMBRACE THE MESS
You see the ladies and moms who have it all together, and it makes you feel like you are less of a superhero. You aren’t the badass woman you were meant to be. You’ve heard it a million times, it’s all a highlight reel. You only see the highlights of everyone’s life, which is totally true and there is nothing wrong with that! But it is still so easy to get wrapped up in thinking your life isn’t as great as others, or that you have to be the super wife or mom and be on top of everything every second of every day! I catch myself more than I would like to admit feeling like I can’t get on top of my day to day activities, or work, or my health. Who says that we need to be on top of everything? Isn’t it okay to let the laundry pile up one day? Let dishes sit by the sink and extra day? Some things have deadlines, like for example, your work, some things will have deadlines, and time restrictions.
This most certainly is not a call to action to be lazy, but it is to let you know, that you will be fine if your laundry sits an extra day and doesn’t get done every Monday like some super wifes brag about, and hey, nothing wrong with getting your laundry done on Monday either! Don’t ever feel bad when you are on top of your game and feeling extra motivated and productive, but also don’t feel bad if you are having an off week and nothing seems to be getting done on time. Embrace the mess when it is that week that nothing seems to be lining up well, and celebrate the weeks that you are feeling so productive!
We are all going to have up + downs, productive and not so productive weeks. Weeks where a million things pop up that you weren’t expecting, and other weeks that go by almost according to what you had planned for the whole week. Whatever way to cookie crumbles, embrace it. Celebrate when weeks are stress-free and feeling great, but also embrace the mess when you can’t even go to the gym when you had planned that week. Roll with the waves, and give yourself grace! This definitely isn’t meant to be an excuse to be lazy or too put things off for weeks or months at a time, but don’t let your confidence take a hit with pushing back your to do list of chores by a day or two.
You don’t need to be on your ‘A’ game every day, so celebrate the days you do feel on top of it, but also just embrace the mess. Life is way too short to be stressed and feeling overwhelmed with the to-do lists in life that go untouched for a day or two. Like I said, those towels that you didn’t get washed today will get washed tomorrow and they’ll survive, as will you! It will not make you less of a wife or a mother or lady if you delay your laundry by one day. Just remind yourself to embrace the mess. Life is already stressful enough with staying on top of your health, keeping up with relationships, investing in your work, finances, etc, so don’t let those dishes and laundry distract you from what really is important in life. Go out on that date with your husband even though you should be packing up to move across the country, play with your kids when they are begging you too, even though the mountain of laundry is staring you in the face. You won’t get those special moments back in life, life will keep on whizzing past us, so prioritize what really matters in life, and embrace the mess along the way.
XOXO, MARA
